Should I be offended that my son wants his…
DEAR ABBY: I am an 80-year-old man who is just lately retired and in comparatively good health. My spouse is about the same. We just lately acquired a request from our son, who is 50, for his share of the inheritance now fairly than later. It got here as a shock. He is promoting his company, which is valued at $7 million to $8 million. He tells me he’s money poor, which impacts the leverage of his sale.
While we’ve the money, we’d have to empty our financial savings and money in some investments. We are usually not destitute by any means and can in all probability handle this, but I’m questioning if I ought to be offended by the query of an advance inheritance. I’ve never dealt with this before and surprise if you’ve any ideas about the propriety. Should I contain my other kids? It impacts them, too. — TAKEN ABACK IN TEXAS
DEAR TAKEN ABACK: The people you must contain in this choice are your lawyer, your CPA and your financial adviser. I hesitate to advise you to contain your other kids at this level for worry it would start World War III.
DEAR ABBY: My spouse continually disrespects me. She’s controlling and places our son and his kids forward of me. She refuses counseling, while I go to counseling often. She doesn’t need to cook for me or do something that will make my life simpler. All she does is complain, argue and choose fights.
She has now allowed our son (who is a drug addict and alcoholic) and his two small kids to live with us. I have no peace in my home, and I have remained devoted despite getting no affection. I have sacrificed 25 years to be with her only to be continually rejected. She hadn’t healed from a poisonous relationship before we have been married, but I didn’t understand it was this unhealthy. I need somebody to love me. — ALONE IN MICHIGAN
DEAR ALONE: You say you go to counseling often. What does your therapist have to say about your unhappy state of affairs? If this particular person is advising you to keep and be depressing, my advice is to change therapists.
DEAR ABBY: I have a fast stroll, and since I have been working as a housekeeper at a local hospital, I often get feedback about it. In my earlier occupation (waitress and bartender), that never occurred, maybe because it’s common in a high-energy industry.
I normally retort with, “I’m not walking fast. You’re watching me too slow.” Interestingly, feedback I obtain like, “Run, run, run,” or “Where’s the fire?” are never directed at medical doctors, nurses or my supervisors. Maybe it’s about my age. I’m a strong, healthy and energetic 69 years younger. Comments about my fast stroll annoy me. I’m pondering of having T-shirts made that say on the back, “Yes, I walk fast!”
Abby, what do you suppose about this? Do you’ve a fast and barely snarky response I may throw at these impolite, insensitive people? — SPEEDY GAL IN CANADA
DEAR SPEEDY GAL: These people could not intend to be impolite. Rather than look for methods to dismiss them, which might probably trigger exhausting emotions, just smile and keep strolling at your own tempo. If you’re feeling you must reply, say, “This is how I get the job done,” and keep shifting.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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