Dear Abby: My sons wife is an alcoholic…
DEAR ABBY: My oldest son, “Adam,” turned 50 last month. He and his wife, “Lindy,” live 4 hours away. They invited me and my husband to a birthday celebration she was having for him. Adam’s daughter from a earlier marriage couldn’t make it for whatever motive.
Lindy tends to drink an excessive amount of. At one level, she went around screaming about how Adam’s “stupid daughter” didn’t hassle to make it to his birthday celebration. To say the least, I used to be livid. I didn’t communicate up because my son’s buddies had traveled to be there and I didn’t need to wreck the celebration, and she was clearly very intoxicated.
My granddaughter doesn’t have a good relationship with them. Adam adopted the youngest of Lindy’s three daughters because the 2 older ones have been married. I no longer need to have something to do with Lindy. Adam and his father don’t know about what occurred that evening. We haven’t had a good relationship since Adam left his first household for Lindy. Any advice? — HOLDING MY TONGUE IN TEXAS
DEAR HOLDING: Adam is aware of his wife is a drinker who sometimes turns into out of control. You didn’t point out whether or not he has maintained contact with his ex-wife or his daughter. That she averted his birthday celebration might not have been surprising. My advice is to keep your lip zipped and resist the urge to additional rock the boat.
DEAR ABBY: A good friend I’ve identified since our college days works in the same group I do. We’re in different departments, but we had comparable jobs when I began six years in the past. During that time, I’ve had two big promotions, and she has stayed where she is. Her work is nicely obtained, and she always will get optimistic reviews, so she’s annoyed she hasn’t been promoted.
She requested me to help her work out what is going on. (When requested, her supervisor didn’t give a straight reply, which is typical right here.) I feel the issue could also be how she presents herself. It’s an old-school setting, and she has a fashionable angle toward work-life steadiness. She attire within the letter of the gown code but more informal than those around her. She takes personal calls within earshot of others and will pop in and out of the workplace to run errands or choose up her children up from someplace, and then work from home to make up the time. While technically it is allowed, others don’t do this.
Only 10% of our job is client-facing, but trying and appearing the half is observed. It can be great if the foundations outlined what the managers really need, but I feel studying the room is mandatory too. Maintaining our friendship is more important to me than serving to her at the workplace. How a lot of this, if any, do I share with her? — FAITHFUL FRIEND IN OHIO
DEAR FRIEND: You ought to share all of your ideas with your good friend, because they’re pertinent and sincere. After that, she ought to communicate privately with her boss and ask why she hasn’t been in a position to advance in the company.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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