I became a full-time caretaker for my wifes sick…
DEAR ABBY: I have read your column for 40 years. Now I have an issue. I have been taking care of my spouse’s uncle for the last two years. He had a stroke, and I became a licensed nursing assistant. I keep home and take care of him 24/7.
My spouse doesn’t help. Recently, her sister determined to return to faculty to end her RN and moved in with us. She doesn’t help at all.
I determined to go back to college to get my grasp’s. I work 60 hours a week and also work on my grasp’s in cybersecurity. I told my spouse that if her sister doesn’t transfer out by the end of the 12 months, I am shifting out.
We are placing her uncle back in a nursing home. I can not do it anymore. In the last two years, I have had only 4 days off. When I had the flu, no laundry was executed.
Am I a unhealthy individual for wanting a profession? Am I a unhealthy individual for wanting a home with just my spouse and me? — EXHAUSTED IN THE EAST
DEAR EXHAUSTED: It was loving and beneficiant of you to enroll in courses to turn out to be a CNA so you could possibly give your spouse’s uncle the care he needed.
That she did nothing to lighten your burden, and then invited her sister to transfer in without first clearing it with you, was incorrect.
Marriage is meant to be a partnership, and it seems you’ve been doing all the heavy lifting. You will not be a unhealthy individual for wanting a profession and the financial advantages it is going to convey, and you shouldn’t be made to really feel guilty for it.
DEAR ABBY: Two years in the past, a close buddy of my husband’s and mine requested us to be the “best couple” in their wedding ceremony.
After being postponed for a 12 months due to some household points, the marriage is coming up soon. My husband and I have been married 25 years. We have a strong, trustworthy bond.
Last weekend, we have been informed that we gained’t be paired together. Neither of us is joyful with this news. We really feel that our pals will not be respectful of our relationship.
I’m baffled about why the “best couple” wouldn’t be paired together. I’m so upset that I have cried for days. I really feel disrespected, betrayed and unvalued.
I don’t need us to be paired with other companions. I told our pals I’m not snug with my husband strolling with another girl, and me strolling with another man, but I was ignored.
I no longer need to even go to the marriage. Am I being unreasonable? — COMMITTED BUT UNHAPPY
DEAR COMMITTED: Please dry your tears. You could have blown this out of proportion.
For the last quarter of a century, you and your husband have been identified to be a stable couple.
I don’t know why the bride and groom are asking you to stroll down the aisle individually. It might be one thing as simple as pairing attendants who are related heights.
Participate in the marriage and assist your mates. It is only for sooner or later and, I assume, you can be seated with your husband after the ceremony.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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