I havent had sex with my cheating wife in 15…
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I are approaching our fortieth anniversary. Friends and household have already begun to point out the upcoming milestone. While I politely acknowledge the event, I cover my indifference. You see, my wife has always been a serial cheater. It’s a secret I have stored from everybody, particularly our kids.
Because she has always been a great mom, I would never do something to tarnish their love and appreciation of her. The kids are a large half of the rationale I have remained married. Aside from her betrayal, she has been a good wife and companion, and I still love her.
During her affairs, I fought depression by submerging myself in work and crying when alone. Our kids are grown and on their own now. We have a stunning grandson. We both retired a couple of years in the past, and that is when the truth of the past 40 years hit me. I no longer have the crutch of work to help me through.
Our marriage has been sexless since she went through menopause 15 years in the past. I have been loyal to her all these years, but I still need intimacy. I have a few feminine pals who, in the past, have shown an curiosity in more intimate relationships. Would or not it’s flawed to rekindle and transfer ahead with an previous pal? I have no intention of leaving my wife, but I am so in need of one thing more. — FORTY YEARS A FOOL
DEAR ‘FOOL’: Have you really talked to your wife (whom you’re keen on) about this? Many postmenopausal girls whose libidos have declined still get pleasure from sex. This is a subject she ought to have mentioned with her gynecologist 15 years in the past because this isn’t an insurmountable downside. If she refuses, you’ll be within your rights to inform her you need the same dispensation you’ve got given her for 40 years of infidelity, because you still need and need intimacy. Her response will inform you every little thing you need to know.
DEAR ABBY: I have been eating dessert on days I have deemed “dessert-free.” I get to have dessert on Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Can you please help me to stop my wrestle on the times when I don’t get dessert? — CRAVING IT IN WASHINGTON
DEAR CRAVING IT: I perceive (only too properly!) the mindset that a meal isn’t full unless there’s one thing candy at the end of the main course.
Years in the past, a psychologist pal shared with me that she resolved her craving for one thing candy by carrying a small bag containing a ginger snap cookie in her purse when she went to eating places. When she was completed with her meal, she took the bag out of her purse and ate half of one. She said it happy her craving without sabotaging her diet. Try it. However, if it doesn’t work for you, take into account substituting a piece of contemporary fruit for the cookie.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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