My best friend rejected my advances — should I…
DEAR ABBY: I fell in love with my best friend. When I informed her 10 years in the past, she distanced herself. We have been nonetheless buddies, however she went on making dangerous selections in her relationships, and I by no means discovered anybody who might evaluate to her. We reconnected lately and have as soon as again change into very close. I nonetheless love her, and I all the time will.
She doesn’t share the identical emotions I have, and whereas I need to ask her why, I haven’t requested as a result of I don’t need to lose her again. Am I incorrect for settling for our superb friendship? How can I persuade her that we could possibly be a lot more than simply one another’s best friend with out dropping her? — LOVESICK GUY IN THE EAST
DEAR LOVESICK GUY: When a girl distances herself after a man tells her he needs romantic involvement, it normally means she will not be bodily drawn to him. It doesn’t imply she doesn’t “like” him or that they don’t have a lot in common. However, it does imply that in order for you more out of a relationship, you’ll have to look elsewhere to seek out it.
DEAR ABBY: My little sister is getting married, and our household is thrilled for her. She’s having a small marriage ceremony and has chosen to not have a bridal occasion. At first, I was unhappy as a result of she was the maid of honor in my marriage ceremony, however I respect her and her fiance’s choice.
My quandary is that I joked that I’m off the hook from writing a speech, since I’m not the MOH. But — she nonetheless needs me to write down a speech and provides a toast. I don’t need to! It looks like she needs to have her marriage ceremony cake and eat it, too. Your ideas? — SPEECHLESS SIS IN GEORGIA
DEAR SIS: What is your drawback? Why would you need to do something that may reduce your little sister’s happiness on her big day? It seems you weren’t joking after all whenever you mentioned you have been “off the hook.” My thought is you should be sincere with your self about your motivations, then dismount out of your high horse, write the darn speech and make it heartfelt.
DEAR ABBY: How can I get my neighbor to stop shopping for us pies? Her husband died a 12 months in the past. He had Alzheimer’s for a few years earlier than his passing. We are more than completely happy to help her with issues round her home as a result of we imagine serving to others is the proper factor to do. We don’t eat many sweets and don’t need the surplus energy. Health is a high precedence. I have requested her to stop with the sweets, however she retains shopping for us these things as a thank-you. A verbal thanks can be enough. — PIE-FREE ZONE IN ILLINOIS
DEAR PIE-FREE: The subsequent time your well-meaning neighbor brings a pie to your home, remind her that you just and your loved ones keep away from sweets for health causes and a verbal thank-you is more than enough. If she persists after that, inform her that as a substitute of the pie you’d respect a fruit salad or a good zucchini. (It’s price a attempt.)
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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