My boyfriends friends keep trying to set him up…
DEAR ABBY: I used to be with the same particular person (my first “everything” man) for 23 years. A few years after the shock of a divorce, I met somebody 10 years my junior. He makes me really feel I’m the most lovely lady in the world, complimenting on what my ex thought-about my faults, exhibiting I’m still a attractive, fascinating lady and making me really feel like I matter in this world.
The downside is, despite him saying he might live without having youngsters (I’m nearly 50), I concern it could be one thing he’ll remorse or resent me for down the street if we keep together. His friends keep trying to repair him up with youthful ladies “because he’d be a good dad,” and it breaks my coronary heart to suppose this is perhaps what tears us aside when we haven’t yet put a label on what we’re together.
I don’t need to maintain him back from a life he could have pictured, yet it terrifies me that I’d have to see him with another person. He stays friends with his exes, so I can think about him anticipating me to still be half of his life even if not romantically. I’m not sure my coronary heart might deal with that. Advice? — WISTFUL IN WASHINGTON
DEAR WISTFUL: You are overdue for a dialog with this man in which you inform him you need to know how important having kids is to him. Explain that his friends trying to repair him up with youthful ladies “because he’d make a great dad” is unnerving, and you don’t want to stand in his manner if he desires to be one.
While you might be at it, inform him that standing apart and watching him construct a life with another person can be heartbreaking for you, and he shouldn’t anticipate that it’ll occur. It is the reality. He wants to hear it, and you need his reply.
DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law is a very beneficiant woman. She pays for practically every little thing as far as food and requirements for our household when she visits twice a 12 months. She’s a foodie, which suggests when she’s right here, we eat at any restaurant she hasn’t tried. She’ll order practically every appetizer on the menu and encourage each of us to order one thing different so we are able to all pattern a selection of entrees. The dessert menu is no exception.
I’ve dietary points and have only not too long ago found out which meals don’t make me uncomfortable. I can no longer tolerate dairy, fatty meals, and so forth. The menu gadgets at most eating places comprise those issues. When I politely refuse sure appetizers or sides with my entrees, she turns into upset. I perceive, as she does pay for every little thing. How can I get around not compromising my health with her generosity? — PERPLEXED IN COLORADO
DEAR PERPLEXED: The dialog you must have with your mother-in-law ought to happen privately, and not while you might be at a restaurant ordering food. You could need to have it more than once, and in advance of her go to. If crucial, clarify, in element, how extreme your digestive points are. Then, when you and the household dine out, inform the server who is taking your order precisely what you need.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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