DEAR ABBY: For 15 years I’ve maintained an in depth friendship with a rich older man who has turn into a sort of mentor. He’s 90 years previous now and in failing well being. He advised me on a number of events that I used to be named in his will, however after we met for lunch the opposite day, he knowledgeable me his total property will go to his live-in caregivers.
I used to be by no means on this friendship for the cash (he only not too long ago turned rich after inheriting his late sister’s property), but it surely hurts realizing I’ve been eradicated from his will with no explanation. I earn a six-figure earnings and don’t want his cash, but it surely bothers me. If I ask about it, I will seem greedy. If I say nothing, it will gnaw away at me. What do I do? — PROMISE WITHDRAWN IN TEXAS
DEAR PROMISE: Quit worrying about appearances and ask him the query you need to have requested when he advised you he had modified his will and eradicated you. Do it now. He’s 90 and in failing well being, and chances are you’ll not have lengthy to get the reply to the query.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve an in depth pal, “Renee,” whom I’ve recognized for a number of years. She typically involves my residence within the evenings for an hour or so to get away from her home. She’s a single mum or dad who lives at residence with her mother and two youngsters, so she considers it an escape.
While I don’t thoughts her coming over most days, a considerably delicate subject has come up. Renee typically wears tennis footwear with out socks, or footwear for a really very long time with out washing them. When she takes them off, they stink. She then tries to cover her smelly toes beneath the blankets I carry on my sofa. It doesn’t assist. I can nonetheless odor them, and my blankets stink when she leaves.
This subject is embarrassing, and I don’t need to damage her emotions however, actually, I’m sick of having to clean my blankets each time she comes over. Any ideas on how I ought to deal with this? — SUFFERING IN SILENCE
DEAR SUFFERING: Handle this by asking your pal to please hold her footwear on and her toes on the ground when she’s at your home. If she asks why, inform her the reality and counsel she begin washing her footwear — and her toes — recurrently.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 9-year-old woman. Right now I don’t do chores or get an allowance, however I need to. How ought to I ask my mother and father? And how a lot cash ought to I ask for? — KID WHO NEEDS CASH
DEAR KID: Tell your mother and father you need to discuss to them about an allowance. Ask what issues you could possibly do to assist round the home with a view to earn one and the way a lot they’re keen to pay you for doing them. As to how a lot to anticipate, this will rely upon what your mother and father could possibly afford. Ask them should you can negotiate to seek out an quantity you all agree upon. And should you want extra money, doing comparable chores for a relative or neighbor is perhaps a superb place to start out.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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