My former best friend claims she was only in my…
DEAR ABBY: After my father died by suicide, my mom moved the household across the nation. I was 13, and I never mentioned my father’s death with anybody.
Now, 50 years later, my best friend from high college has terminated our friendship because I don’t assist her politics. Her parting remark to me: “I was only nice to you because your mom told me how your dad died.” Abby, I had loads of pals in high college. I was senior class president, and I’ve gone on to have a profitable life.
I was always there for my friend when she had marital and other difficulties. I’m struggling with processing such profound cruelty from a lifelong friend, and I’d welcome your steering. — GRAPPLING IN SAN FRANCISCO
DEAR GRAPPLING: The assertion from your “lifelong friend” was imply, merciless, and pointless. It was meant to harm you.
I don’t know if you notice what a strong lady you’re. Although your loved ones skilled a extreme trauma that necessitated geographic relocation, you managed to thrive in your new atmosphere. You have been well-liked with friends and have gone on to construct a profitable life. Count your blessings.
The individual you describe might have been a friend at one time, but she has used the current political climate as an excuse to distance herself. Step back and be glad she confirmed her true colours. You are properly rid of her.
DEAR ABBY: Although my spouse and I (we’re both ladies) have caught it out for almost 40 years, there was some dysfunction. Her brother was snuck in 10 years in the past, and he’s very mouthy. He has always been whiny and entitled, but now he likes to yell, anticipating silence in return.
We live in a small home. What if I flipped out every time he disturbed my sleep? It’s half my home! I’m disabled and retired and residing on Social Security advantages. My spouse refuses to back me up and inform her brother he doesn’t get to disrespect me. I don’t need to spend the end of my life like this. It could be my hell. Things are usually not wanting great. I like her, and she has stepped up in so many methods, but not in this. Please advise. — CROWDED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR CROWDED: What do you imply your spouse “snuck her brother in” 10 years in the past? (Did a two-week go to magically flip into 10 years?) As half proprietor of that home, you’re entitled to live in it without being berated by a deadbeat.
Talk to an attorney. Learn your rights as a partner in California. If the home have been offered and you obtained your half of its worth, your life is likely to be brighter than it’s now. Of course, the choice is that you and your spouse inform your brother-in-law to discover another roost to rule.
DEAR VETERANS: For your service to our nation, I salute you. My thanks to each of you on this Veterans Day. You personify patriotism, self-sacrifice and dedication to our nation. I’d also like to acknowledge your households for the sacrifices they, too, have made while you have been serving your nation. — LOVE, ABBY
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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