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My mom is obsessed with my husband and Is…

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are in our 50s. For a number of months, I’ve been struggling with an issue I’ve with my mom. She continuously asks me how a lot my annual income is and how a lot my husband makes. In the 20-plus years we’ve been married, we’ve never requested to borrow money from my mother and father (or anybody, for that matter). We have always labored arduous and managed our funds to make sure the wants of our household are met.

Dad is gone now, and for some motive, Mom has develop into overly invested in figuring out our funds. She says she desires to be close to me, but that includes sharing what I deem to be one thing personal between my husband and me. I strongly really feel this is none of her business. In order to shut her up (for lack of a better time period), and because she won’t settle for that it’s not for her to know, I give her a quantity I make up. Our financial standing shouldn’t be what determines Mom’s relationship with us. 

Am I fallacious to really feel this is a personal matter between my husband and me and none of her business? I really feel Mom is crossing a line. I ponder if she asks close buddies how a lot they and their husbands earn in a month in order to really feel close to them. Your ideas? — IT’S MY BUSINESS

DEAR ‘BUSINESS’: My goodness, discuss about emotional blackmail! You made a big mistake by mendacity to your mom about your financial standing. I’ll assume that you may have mentioned the issue you’re having with her with your husband. The next time she pressures you to give her personal financial info, inform her this is a dialog she ought to have with you AND him. Then, when Mama says she wants to know about your financial state of affairs, let him ask her why before assuring her that you’re secure, and the remainder is none of her business. 

DEAR ABBY: A pair of days a week, when I’ve no plans and no place to go, I keep in my pajamas. They are comfortable, and I determine why soiled clean garments just to make more laundry and waste cleaning soap and water? Well, older people inform me I ought to costume every day. I don’t see the issue. I bathe recurrently, wash my pajamas and other garments, and keep my home and yard clean. I’m not lazy — I just don’t see the worth in getting dressed for the sake of getting dressed. I actually want people would give up telling me how to live my life. What do you suppose? — COMFORTABLE IN WISCONSIN

DEAR COMFORTABLE: My late mom used to say that when people look their best, it offers them confidence, which makes them really feel better about themselves. She wasn’t fallacious. She also told me that if I didn’t take some time, invariably I might run into somebody I wanted I had seemed better for. (Alas, also true.) This stands out as the message these of us try to talk. However, because you’re snug sporting pajamas at home a couple days a week, you’ll get no argument from me.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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