My teenage granddaughter is being encouraged to…
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve not too long ago discovered that our 14-year-old granddaughter, a freshman in high faculty, is being encouraged to drink, or more precisely, “chug,” beer out of cans with her stepdad at events and social gatherings he has been having at their home.
Our son, the lady’s organic father, is very involved about this criminal activity, as are we, but he is fearful if he confronts the mom and stepdad and tells them what they’re doing must stop immediately, his ex will withhold his daughter from him even more than she already does. There is no court order for custody and/or visitation between the dad and mom, as they always labored that out verbally.
We really feel the local authorities, division of youngster companies, law enforcement and her high faculty counselor need to be notified about what is occurring. This is youngster endangerment. Contributing to the delinquency of a minor is against the law and might probably be thought-about youngster abuse. Please advise us on the best method to deal with this state of affairs. — ALARMED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR ALARMED: How did you get this info? Did your granddaughter inform you? Did it occur more than once? What does the ex-wife have to say about it? If the solutions your son will get aren’t satisfying, he ought to focus on this with an attorney who specializes in household law.
Your son might want to take into account inquiring about taking full or partial custody of the lady. At the very least, he ought to take into account searching for a court order that ensures common visitation. If anybody makes an attempt to stop it from occurring, at that level, he might want youngster protecting companies to develop into concerned.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to my second spouse for 21 years. We have been together for 23. I never had kids of my own but have been blessed with two kids and 5 grandchildren from my spouse. My granddaughter, who is 23, will probably be getting married this yr.
I’ve just realized she has requested her mom’s boyfriend and her brother to stroll her down the aisle. I’ve identified her since she was 2 months outdated. Her mother’s boyfriend is a live-in and has been good to her, as have I. Her brother is already a member of the marriage social gathering.
This reader desires to stroll his granddaughter down the isle at her marriage ceremony. Adobe Stock
Needless to say, I’m crushed and hoping she is going to change this before the marriage. If not, I don’t plan to attend. I’ve always told her she wants to be accountable for her actions, and that her selections will inform the world who she is. Please advise. — STEPPING UP IN MISSOURI
DEAR STEPPING UP: Your spouse ought to focus on this with her daughter and granddaughter. Perhaps one thing could possibly be labored out so that you’d start to escort your granddaughter midway down the aisle and then hand her off to her brother and her mother’s boyfriend. However, if that isn’t workable, I don’t suppose it’s best to boycott the marriage. That day is not about you; it is supposed to be about the comfortable couple.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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