My sisters hate my girlfriend…
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 67-year-old man who has two sisters. Recently, I used to be at my youthful sister “Mitzi’s” home, putting in some blinds. While there, I acquired a cellphone call from my girlfriend. (We have been together 9 months, after my spouse handed last 12 months.) My girlfriend and I have been discussing funds, including the subject of my older sister, “Carolyn,” borrowing money last 12 months.
A few days later, Carolyn called me, upset that I had mentioned our financial association with my girlfriend. (It seems Mitzi had recorded the dialog on her Ring cameras while I used to be there alone.) Now, both sisters are mad at me. This all began when I told Mitzi that associating with her ex-husband who verbally and bodily abused her years earlier was a mistake. He was arrested for home violence and incarcerated for a while for committing other crimes.
Mitzi didn’t have my permission to share that recording I had no information of. She was not a participant in the dialog. Now, my girlfriend is worried because she was wanting ahead to building a good relationship with my sisters and now doesn’t assume Carolyn will let her. Any advice? — DRAMA-FILLED IN NEW YORK
DEAR DRAMA-FILLED: Just this: Remember none of this would have occurred if you hadn’t accomplished a favor for Sister Mitzi by putting in her blinds. Unless you have been sworn to secrecy, there’s no cause you shouldn’t have mentioned the loan you made to Sister Carolyn with your girlfriend. If they continue providing you with a laborious time, warn them that if they don’t both apologize for breaching your privateness, you might be accomplished being their handyman and moneylender. You ought to also make clear that, at a minimal, you anticipate them to deal with your girlfriend with respect.
DEAR ABBY: I’m acquainted with a single mom of a 4-year-old daughter. The mom is depressed and suffers from a circadian rhythm disorder. They don’t go to mattress until 4 to 6 in the morning and sleep until 2 or 3 in the afternoon. Because of their sleep schedule, there are no daytime actions for the kid. During the winter, the little lady noticed only an hour or two of daylight each day.
The mom doesn’t need her daughter to attend preschool because of their sleep schedule. This could have a detrimental impact on her daughter. Her circadian rhythm can be out of sync when she does go to college. Is this thought of neglect? The father is a good friend of mine, and he agrees this is a downside. Can you offer options? — BYSTANDER IN OHIO
DEAR BYSTANDER: Yes, this is taken into account neglect. That little one has acquired none of the social or mental stimulation that kids usually do. The father wants to step in, assert himself and, if it’s potential, rally the grandparents for help. There is medical help for both circadian rhythm disorder and depression, and the mom must be urged to give it a strive, if not for her own sake, then for her daughter’s.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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