I saw a mother hit her child — should I stay…
DEAR ABBY: I was purchasing just lately and encountered a mother who had her two younger youngsters in her cart. One of them was making a loud noise. The mother slapped her arduous across the face, yelling, “You’re not getting what you want, so be quiet!” I felt I should say one thing, but I didn’t need the state of affairs to escalate. What would an applicable response be that would show empathy but would also convey that bodily abuse is unacceptable? — MOTHER LOOKING ON IN ARIZONA
DEAR MOTHER: Empathy for whom — the mother or the child? Mature dad and mom don’t slap their youngsters across the face for appearing up. They take the child out of the store until they calm down. If this occurs in public, one can only think about what goes on in non-public. If I had seen it, I would have snapped a image of the three of them, as properly as the license plate of the mother’s car. Then I would report the girl to child protecting companies so they may examine.
DEAR ABBY: During social occasions and initial greetings, I am often requested, “What was/is your occupation?” Abby, I am retired and have no need to focus on my past occupation with them. Once people comprehend it, they mechanically place you in a class, which could embrace your financial price, what form of car you drive, what form of home you live in, and so forth. Often, this occurs so they’ll “one-up” you. I actually don’t assume these issues are anybody’s business unless I select to focus on it with them. I desire to look toward the future and not dwell on the past. Although I am grateful for my past employment, it doesn’t outline who I am today. Can you please recommend a well mannered approach to reply the query “What was/is your occupation?” — NOT DEFINED BY MY OCCUPATION
DEAR NOT DEFINED: No law says you must focus on your past profession if you don’t want to. Try this the next time you’re requested that query. Say, “I’m retired, and I forget from what.” Or smile and say, “Work? I don’t use four-letter words in public.” Then ask the asker what they do for a residing.
DEAR ABBY: We loaned my sister $10,000 three years in the past, and she has repaid only a fraction of it. She had promised it could be paid back within six months. She has refused to take my calls on the vacations, and I haven’t spoken to her in many months. We used to be very close, but now money has come between us. I’m feeling resentful, and I want this hadn’t occurred. What would you do, Abby? — TOO GENEROUS IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR TOO GENEROUS: If I had a signed observe from my sister outlining the quantity I had loaned her and the phrases of compensation, and after 2 1/2 years had elapsed with no cost and my sister ducking my calls, I’d call my lawyer. Some type of cost plan wants to be established. If she has property, maybe a lien will be positioned against it. I want you luck on what is sure to be a bumpy experience.
P.S. If you do NOT have a notarized settlement from your sister, you could be studying a very costly lesson.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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