My husbands flirty personality and Facebook…
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve been married 45 years, but over the last six months, we’ve had quite a few fights about Facebook. I’m having points with his dependancy to social media and his fixed posts and feedback with people I don’t know.
I get jealous about these interactions with girls. He has never given me motive not to trust him, but I’m having hassle with this. It’s also a downside when he has one or two alcoholic drinks. If I ask him about one thing FB-related, it sometimes units him off and we now have a big battle. He turns into very unreasonable, and it’s always my fault. In particular person, he’s very pleasant and sometimes teases girls. I get jealous about that, too.
We just lately moved to this space and don’t have many associates, and that appears to be making issues worse. I’m feeling unhappy and lack vanity proper now. I don’t know how to get over this. Do you may have any ideas? He gained’t go to counseling because he says it’s “my problem,” not his. — ALWAYS WRONG IN WEST VIRGINIA
DEAR ALWAYS WRONG: Your husband seems to be a “people person.” Nowhere in your letter did you point out that he has been untrue. It can be incorrect to strive to change his personality because you are feeling insecure.
A approach for you (both) to make associates in a new neighborhood can be to contain yourselves in it. Join a membership or a service group, signal up for a fitness center or volunteer to help others who are less lucky. If you and your husband are spiritual, affiliate with a home of worship. This ought to facilitate integrating yourselves. However, if your unhappiness and lack of vanity don’t reduce, then talk about this with a licensed mental health skilled.
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DEAR ABBY: My daughter, “Amelia,” is 26 and has been courting her boyfriend for nearly three years. He is great, and my household loves him. He has a son from a earlier relationship who was born while my daughter was courting him. (He and the child’s mother broke up while she was pregnant.) Amelia is great with the little boy, but we wish more for her. We would love to see the connection go additional, but although he retains telling her it’s going to occur “soon,” it never does.
Amelia has taken on many roles, and I consider she deserves more of a dedication from him. She helps to raise his son with nothing in return but empty guarantees. Are my husband and I incorrect for wanting more for her? She has expressed that she also needs the dedication. Should we method the subject with him? — MAMA WANTS MORE
DEAR MAMA: I don’t assume it might be clever for you and your husband to method Amelia’s boyfriend and strive to wrest a dedication from him. You do, however, need to air your emotions with your daughter. She might stay in limbo for years if she doesn’t assert herself. If the romance doesn’t work out, the particular person who could undergo most is that little boy, who can have misplaced another mom determine.
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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