Dear Abby: How do we tell our 20-year-old son to…
DEAR ABBY: Our 20-year-old son works full time and lives with us. He doesn’t do any family chores or pay us something, not even his car insurance coverage (which he agreed to pay). He then moved his girlfriend in, and after that a canine, without permission. He has anxiety and depression points, which he thinks he’s treating with marijuana.
When we attempt to strategy him about his plans for the future, serving to out at home or paying something, it turns into a screaming match with him punching the partitions. How do we deal with this without a struggle? I imply, we might kick them out, but we’re afraid he’ll then transfer to a dangerous neighborhood. He’s offended because his buddies received to go to school, yet he confirmed ZERO curiosity and didn’t have the grades. Your ideas could be appreciated. — EXASPERATED MOM IN TEXAS
DEAR MOM: Do you need your son to continue to live with you in perpetuity and not assume any accountability for the privilege? If the reply is yes, continue doing nothing. If the reply is no, then it’s time you and your husband finally assert yourselves.
Tell your son that by now he ought to have saved enough money from his job for a down cost on an house for him, his girlfriend and his canine. Give him a deadline to transfer. If he has to live in a less fascinating neighborhood, so be it. When he begins punching the partitions, tell him to stop immediately and, if he doesn’t, call the police. You will probably be doing all of you a favor.
P.S. Unless your son has been utilizing marijuana with a doctor’s prescription, he’s breaking the law in Texas by utilizing it to self-medicate.
DEAR ABBY: I’m in my early 30s and have determined to lead a child-free life. I believe having a child in the current state of affairs (rising prices, social injustices, crime, global warming, and so on.) is unkind and irresponsible. But I’m nervous that I received’t have anybody to look after me if (or when) I’m immobilized due to age. What are your ideas? — WORRIED MILLENNIAL
DEAR MILLENNIAL: Oh, I’m SO glad you requested me that! Having a baby hoping it should guarantee that you’ll have somebody to care for you in your outdated age will not be outdated age insurance coverage. There are no ensures, as anybody who has read my column for any size of time can attest. As you grow older, it will likely be up to you to present for your outdated age by consulting an attorney or a financial planner to guarantee you’ve got enough property in place to guarantee you’ll obtain the help you suppose you’ll need.
This reader is asking Dear Abby if having a baby is price it so that they are going to have somebody to look after them when they’re older. GRON777 – stock.adobe.com
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I file taxes together every 12 months. I work, and he does as nicely. But when we get the tax refund, he never offers me a dime. How ought to I really feel or what ought to I do about this? — STILL WAITING IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR STILL WAITING: If you’re working and contributing financially, then try to be entitled to some of that refund. That your husband would refuse to share with you is egocentric and controlling. How do you have to really feel? The phrases pissed off and offended come to thoughts. What is he doing with the refund money? Could he be making use of it to next 12 months’s taxes? What it is best to “do about” it relies upon upon how assertive you’re keen to be.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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