I have a friend-with-benefits situation with a…
DEAR ABBY: I have been having a friend-with-benefits relationship with a man I’ll call “Gene.” We are both in our 70s. He lives an hour away, and we see each different once a month. Gene is married, but his spouse is disabled, and their relationship has deteriorated. We used to work collectively, and he was very lonely when I met him. Gene feels accountable for his spouse and will never go away her, which is ok with me. I am not in a full-time boyfriend.
My difficulty is, if my two grownup kids came upon about this, they’d be very judgmental. I know it might harm my relationship with them. On the opposite hand, I don’t need to stay my life on their phrases. What do you suppose of all this? — HAPPY, BUT WORRIED, IN FLORIDA
DEAR HAPPY: I suppose that at the age of 70 you’re mature enough to make your own selections. I also suppose that you need to be robust enough to defend them ought to the need come up. Because you’re dwelling in concern of their finally discovering out that you’re glad with the connection you have with Gene, it might be higher for you to inform them your self.
DEAR ABBY: Just a few months in the past, I came upon my grownup baby is transgender. Nobody is aware of yet besides for me, my husband and my different baby. Until this yr, I have at all times labored in a very caring, loving and supportive atmosphere. Recently, I overheard a new male co-worker say in a high-pitched voice, “I’m transgender! I’m transgender!” while spinning in circles and waving a scarf around his head. I was floored.
I needed to say one thing to him about that being inappropriate and hurtful, but I was speechless. I have never before encountered this sort of habits. How do I deal with this if one thing comparable occurs again? My baby is just not prepared for the world to know, so I need to watch out. I’m kicking myself for not talking up at the time. — REGRETFUL IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR REGRETFUL: It is unlucky that transgender people (who make up much less than 1% of the population) are being scapegoated by ignorant, ill-informed people. Gender id disorder is just not contagious. Trans people are a hazard to no one, and they don’t deserve to be ridiculed. The next time this occurs (and it might), don’t be shy about telling your co-worker that what he’s doing is inappropriate and hurtful and not to do it in entrance of you again.
DEAR ABBY: You have printed many letters from girls dwelling with deadbeat males. I want you’d write about the advantages of dwelling alone and not needing a man in your life to really feel full. — ALONE AND CONTENT IN MASSACHUSETTS
DEAR A & C: Every letter I print concerning “deadbeat” males (and their feminine equivalents) is an object lesson in itself. The writers are overworked, annoyed and depressing. I can’t suppose of a stronger message to ship readers than those in those letters, which converse for themselves. No man at all is healthier than one who is a consumer.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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