I love my boyfriend, but his daughter’s baby talk…
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been seeing “Brad” for 9 months. We both have kids of our own. He has a daughter, and I have a son. The little lady is a few months older than my 7-year-old son. I can see myself having a household with Brad.
However, one of my greatest pet peeves is when kids use baby talk. Brad’s daughter appears to be doing it more and more, and it’s driving me loopy! My son doesn’t talk like that, and when he has, I’ve corrected the state of affairs. It’s not just because it’s his daughter; I would really feel this method with any other child who spoke like this.
I don’t suppose Brad notices. I have tried addressing it with his daughter by telling her that big women don’t talk that method, but it has been futile. I really feel the need to deliver this up with Brad, but I’m afraid my motive just isn’t legitimate. I don’t need to inform him, “Have her stop because she’s annoying the heck out of me.”
Brad has addressed some issues with my son, and I’ve been OK with it. I suppose we will converse overtly about our issues in regard to each other’s kids. I need help with wording my dilemma without sounding like a harpy. Please help. — BEYOND ANNOYED
DEAR BEYOND ANNOYED: Brad’s daughter makes use of baby talk because that is how the adults in her life have spoken to her. If that they had used plain English instead, she wouldn’t be talking the best way she does. I agree that you possibly can’t inform this man that what she’s doing drives you up a wall. Instead, clarify to him that if she does this around other kids, she is probably going to be teased for it and that it’s time to educate her to converse correctly. You can’t control what her mom does, but her father might be helpful in this state of affairs once he acknowledges that it might create issues for her.
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DEAR ABBY: I’m an 82-year-old retired librarian, overtly homosexual and a member of the Friends of the Library. The Friends group I’m lively in is related with a department library I managed more than 50 years in the past. The current department supervisor is a homosexual man around 30 years of age. I see him at the conferences of Friends as properly as when I go to the library for my own studying.
I’d be mendacity if I said I’m not attracted to him, but I have no romantic designs, and there’s no method he would suppose of me in those phrases. I’d like to invite him to lunch, as an act of friendship, but in view of my attraction to him (which he could also be conscious of), I’m afraid it might appear a little creepy. Should I ask him to lunch or just strive to put him out of my thoughts? — TORN IN TEXAS
DEAR TORN: You might want to imagine you “have no romantic designs,” but you’re clearly open to the concept. Instead of a one-on-one lunch, why not invite him to a social gathering as half of a bigger group? That will keep your overture pleasant relatively than romantic. As you get to know him better, if you discover you still need more than friendship, either confess your emotions or take a step back to end the self-torture.
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