I yelled at my sister-in-law after peeing my pants…
DEAR ABBY: At a latest household gathering, my sister-in-law “Paula” requested my husband if she may use our rest room. We have three in our home — one off the kitchen, one upstairs and one in our upstairs bed room suite. Despite the fact that she and my husband both know of my incontinence downside, she requested him to use our rest room “for privacy.”
I had to run upstairs to use my rest room. It was pressing. To my shock, there she was utilizing my rest room. (We don’t even permit our youngsters to use this rest room.) Because I couldn’t make it to the toilet, I had a wetting accident. While I may have used any of the other loos, I selected to use my own, anticipating that it was vacant, realizing the other loos had been free for our friends.
I was extraordinarily upset with Paula. I yelled at her, and when she noticed what had occurred, she was extraordinarily apologetic. Abby, Paula is aware of I have bladder control points, yet she ignored it. My husband heard the commotion and hollered at me for yelling at his sister. Did I do improper right here? He has a laborious time saying no to household, but jeepers, I needed a toilet! What ought to I have executed? — GOTTA GO IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR GOTTA GO: Incontinence can occur to anybody at any age. It isn’t just little outdated women. Between 24% and 45% of ladies have reported urinary incontinence, “the problem no one wants to discuss.” According to statistics from the National Institute of Health roughly 13 million people had been affected by urinary incontinence in 2024.
You had been improper to yell at your sister-in-law, who had been granted permission to use that rest room, but it’s comprehensible given your misery and embarrassment. If you haven’t apologized to her, you need to. Frankly, the particular person who deserved yelling at is your husband, who might never perceive the “urgency” until he experiences it himself. (Many males do!)
DEAR ABBY: Three years in the past, you printed a letter from a grandmother who was upset about having to raise her grandson because his dad and mom lacked the will to do so. I never forgot that letter.
Long before it was printed, my husband and I gained custody of our 7-year-old grandson, “Keith.” My husband and I had been both retired and had been spending our winters in Florida. We gave up the Florida journeys (willingly) to keep home and take care of our grandson.
Keith had always spent a lot of time with us, but he was still upset that his dad and mom had “given him away.” So, to keep busy, we joined karate, Boy Scouts, 4-H and college sports activities. It was one of the best instances of my life. I discovered new issues and made new associates with grandmothers who had been also raising grandchildren.
Keith graduated from high college, discovered a good job, purchased a home and just lately married. We did OK! I hope “Like a Mom in South Carolina” (Nov. 3, 2022) is doing nicely, too. — GRATEFUL GRANDMA IN NEW YORK
DEAR GRANDMA: Many grandparents today are raising their grandchildren, and many of them have success tales comparable to your own. Congratulations on yours, and thanks for sharing.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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