My best friend has been regrowing his hair behind…
DEAR ABBY: I discovered that, behind my back, my best friend has been (secretly) growing hair for the previous 12 months. He is aware of I’ve been balding for a few years. Although I’ve accepted my follicular destiny, he is aware of I continuously search for self-improvement in my life.
What bothers me is that he didn’t share the knowledge until I discussed I used to be pondering about making an attempt Rogaine. THAT is when he advised me he has been utilizing a related product for the previous 12 months and it appears to be working. He even took off his baseball cap (which he has been curiously sporting for a 12 months), to show me the modest outcomes. I doubt he would have shared this if I hadn’t raised the subject.
I really feel deeply shafted by his secrecy, and I don’t see it as such a non-public matter that it had to be hid. I do perceive that he could have felt embarrassed to admit it bothered him and that he was taking steps to handle the difficulty.
What is the rule of etiquette under the circumstances? Should a particular person share self-improvement strategies that are modestly profitable with a close friend who would clearly benefit from the knowledge (assuming it’s not so personal or non-public that it can’t be shared)? — SHAFTED IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR SHAFTED: There is no rule of etiquette that dictates anybody should share this form of info. As close as you might assume you might be to this friend, strive to bear in mind that not everyone seems to be comfy speaking about medical interventions they’re utilizing for self-improvement. This consists of cosmetic surgery, weight-loss medicine and cures for baldness (a situation suffered by members of both sexes). Your friend was good to point out that he has been utilizing a product related to the one you might be considering, but he was under no requirement to do so.
DEAR ABBY: I just lately separated from my spouse and have developed emotions for somebody new, “Maria.” However, Maria has talked about that she’s presently relationship somebody. Despite this, we discuss all through the day and have spent time collectively, and she all the time appears to take pleasure in our conversations and outings.
I’ve expressed my emotions, but slightly than say I’m in the “friend zone,” she merely reiterates that she’s seeing somebody. I’m confused and not sure of what to do. I’ve tried distancing myself, but she continues to attain out, and our conversations choose up again. Should I step back and transfer on, or proceed to interact with her while remaining respectful? — BAFFLED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR BAFFLED: Tell Maria you want her very a lot but are wanting for somebody to have a romantic relationship with, which is why you may be stepping back for a while. Suggest that if her relationship doesn’t work out, she ought to provide you with a call, and possibly you may work one thing out if you’re not seeing anybody. Then transfer on.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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