My co-workers hate me and I dont know why…
DEAR ABBY: I have been a registered nurse for 11 years. I am skilled in hospital ground nursing and clinic nursing, and I have always been effectively regarded in my discipline. I have never had a drawback forming optimistic relationships with my co-workers.
I just lately moved to a new unit. Although the workflow is barely different than what I was used to, I have caught on rapidly and really feel assured in my capability to do the job effectively. My drawback is, none of the nurses appears to like or respect me. They take every alternative to level out insignificant variations in the way in which I do issues as opposed to how they do them. What it actually comes down to is their choice vs. precise protocol. I attempt daily to have interaction in dialog, get to know them better and kind a supportive and respectful working relationship with each of them. My efforts are met with little or no reciprocation.
I love the kind of work I’m doing. The hours are great, and I have the time to present great nursing care and serve as an advocate for my sufferers. However, I have always said I might have the worst job in the world but if I had great relationships with my co-workers, it will make the job a lot more pleasing. I now really feel I have the best job with the worst co-workers. I have gone home and cried a number of instances from feeling annoyed that I’m not accepted. Should I give up and transfer on? If not, how can I make this better?
–– DISAPPOINTED IN ARKANSAS
DEAR DISAPPOINTED: Change could be tough for everybody concerned, including your co-workers. Because you’re new, give it a little more time before deciding whether or not to transfer on. If issues don’t improve, focus on your emotions of isolation with your supervisor to guarantee that the frosty reception you might have acquired doesn’t negatively have an effect on your efficiency. Then look for another job.
DEAR ABBY: I am one of three grownup siblings. My brother and sister both have youngsters; I don’t. I love my nieces and nephews and have always offered birthday and Christmas presents, as effectively as despatched them money for graduations or other particular occasions.
My siblings say they no longer need to exchange presents between the three of us, and just to focus on the children. I spend a number of hundred {dollars} a yr on presents for them and obtain no presents in return. I know that when a present is given, there needs to be no expectation of getting one in return, but I assume a token present for my birthday and Christmas wouldn’t be unreasonable. I can be thrilled to obtain a $20 present card to a restaurant. Am I being unreasonable? — LOVING UNCLE IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR UNCLE: Perhaps. From what you might have written, I don’t assume you’d get something without “prompting.” Instead of dwelling on what you don’t obtain, attempt to focus on the eye and affection they do offer you, and chances are you’ll really feel less disadvantaged.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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