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DEAR ABBY: My 38-year-old daughter tried suicide a week in the past. She had been residing with her fiance, and so they shared an condominium and had two cats. My spouse and I introduced her home from the hospital, and he or she’s staying with us. 

Her fiance’s and his household’s reactions have been horrible. Instead of comforting her, they’re indignant at her concerning the stress she has brought about them. He no longer calls her, and his household has blocked her on their electronic mail and social media. He is not going to go to their condominium. 

My daughter was beneath stress for a long time and had been hiding her points from her fiance, attempting to be the proper individual in entrance of him. This contributed to her interior turmoil. She now feels she was proper to cover all the things, since all of them deserted her as quickly as they discovered she had issues. 

I’ve suggested her that the best factor she will be able to do within the long time period is finish the engagement and by no means see this fiance or his household again. They have proven themselves to be horrible people. She mustn’t marry a man who abandons her when she most wants him. I’ve instructed her this as a result of they aren’t truly married, and he or she now has a likelihood to maneuver ahead for a higher life. What can I do to help her? — HER DAD

DEAR DAD: Your daughter’s fiance and his household might have executed her a favor by demonstrating that in a disaster they’d disappear. What your daughter wants now could be intensive counseling to help her deal with the problems that drove her to attempt suicide. Help her by being affected person and doing all the things you may to make sure that she will get it. Keeping the quantity of the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (988) on hand can be prudent. If you need more assist, contact NAMI — the National Alliance on Mental Illness — at nami.org.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve been married for 44 years. He was a drinker and smoker for 40 of these years. It’s no shock now we have had our ups and downs. Four youngsters and 5 grandchildren later, I’ve lastly realized he’s excited by simply two issues: beer and smoking. 

A 12 months in the past, they discovered spots on his lungs. The physician mentioned the spots have been small however need to be checked yearly. Shouldn’t which were a wake-up call? I’ve begged him to stop each, however he tells me to close up. 

I’m going to inform him I’ll be leaving the home and staying with my daughter. I really like him, however I can’t watch him do that anymore. I wish to dwell and revel in my life. He doesn’t go away the home besides to work and buy beer and cigarettes. I’ve had enough. I’ve to take what life I’ve left to take pleasure in. What do you assume, Abby? — HAD ENOUGH IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR HAD ENOUGH: Truth? I’m stunned your marriage has lasted as long because it has. Your husband is hooked on alcohol and nicotine and is self-destructive. Before packing your luggage, it would benefit you to affix one of the 12-step assist teams for households and pals of addicts as a result of it might assuage any guilt you expertise. That mentioned, as a result of your husband refuses to even attempt to change, I agree it’s time to begin taking care of your self. Watching people hurt themselves is soul-killing.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.