My fiancé wont loan me money to pay my rent…
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 60-year-old divorcee. I’m at present courting a Danish man and have been for a yr. He requested me to marry him a number of months in the past, and I said yes. He needs me and my daughter to transfer to Denmark. My daughter is 21 and high-functioning autistic, but she still wants me to help with government features.
Several months in the past, I misplaced my second job. I received behind on my rent and was evicted. My daughter and I had no place to go and went to live with a buddy in another state. When I requested my fiance if he might please help me a little, he refused and turned offended, saying he didn’t need to be a sugar daddy.
He tells me often how a lot he makes and what he has in the bank. I told him I wasn’t asking for jewellery or fancy garments, just $2,000 so we wouldn’t lose our home. He told me to ask my ex-husband for the money. Because he refused, my daughter and I had been evicted from our home. I finally discovered a second job, but the injury had been completed.
At the start of our relationship, I used to be up-front about my daughter most seemingly needing to live with us and requested if it was a deal-breaker. He said no. Now, he needs her to get out as soon as potential, in a overseas nation where she doesn’t know the language and has her points. He also told me I couldn’t keep my cat. When I expressed how this made me really feel, he turned offended and told me we had been through and he wasn’t going to help me.
I’m not the sort of individual who would take benefit of anybody. I’ve always labored onerous. I really feel that household ought to help each other, and, because we’re engaged, our issues needs to be shared. I don’t know what to do about our relationship now. My daughter is also harm that he doesn’t need her to be with us. He has said if she stayed, he would get his own condominium. Advice? — GOING ABROAD FROM MARYLAND
DEAR GOING: How many crimson flags do you need? Your fiance is tight with money even when he is aware of you might be drowning. He has no intention of dwelling under the same roof with your daughter, who could also be unable to alter to that new society. Understand that if you progress to Denmark, he isn’t going to change. This is who he’s. For your daughter’s sake and your own, end the engagement. This will not be the sort of husband you need.
DEAR ABBY: There’s a boy in a grade above me. When he will get mad that a woman doesn’t like him or his buddy, he slut-shames them and calls them whores. Girls in my grade have tried to shake it off, but it received’t stop. We don’t need to resort to violence, but we’d have to. What ought to we do? — AT OUR WITS’ END
DEAR WITS’ END: Violence is never the reply. The ladies who have been slut-shamed ought to inform their dad and mom what has been going on and then inform the academics and the directors of your faculty. In the great previous days, that boy’s mouth would have been washed out with cleaning soap.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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