Should I see my estranged daughter and risk the…
DEAR ABBY: My daughter, “Violet,” lives about two hours away. She and her mom (my spouse) don’t get along. Violet was always a rebellious, impartial wild little one, as properly as the source of a lot of household issues. Violet and I also had been estranged until we lately reconciled.
Yesterday, she despatched me an electronic mail inviting me to lunch to have fun my birthday. When I told my spouse about the invitation, she responded, “Do what you want” in a tone and with a facial features which said: “Go ahead, but if you do, you’ll be sorry.”
I have tried to reconcile these two ladies I love without success. My spouse tells me she loves Violet but doesn’t like her, although she would really like to have a better relationship with her. Violet tells me she blames her mom for her PTSD (her unofficial diagnosis) and needs nothing to do with her.
So do I go to lunch with my daughter and incur the wrath of my spouse for what she would contemplate a betrayal, or do I decline the invitation from my daughter and risk alienating her again? — IN THE MIDDLE IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR IN THE MIDDLE: Your spouse is incorrect to attempt to use you to punish her troubled daughter. It would benefit all three of you if Violet had been correctly identified. Before having that birthday lunch, ask your doctor if he or she can provide you the identify of some docs who specialize in diagnosing and treating PTSD. During the lunch, inform Violet you’re keen on her, but this cut up in the household isn’t good for any of you, which is why you might be giving her the names of docs who can help her work through her trauma. An various to that is perhaps household counseling for the three of you.
DEAR ABBY: I reconnected with my high faculty first love. Unfortunately, both of us had been married. His spouse didn’t win her battle with cancer and handed away. I ultimately obtained a divorce. All through this time, we had been intimate, spending as a lot time together as we may. (We live in different cities.)
This Dear Abby reader needs to know how she ought to reconnect with her high faculty first love later in life. Yuliia – stock.adobe.com
It has been eight months since we reconnected, and I’m prepared for a relationship. I know he’s nowhere close to healed or close to prepared to be in another relationship. This is the third time in our lives we have now been introduced together and couldn’t “be” together. I don’t know whether or not to let go or to wait. Please help. — ONE WHO GOT AWAY
DEAR ONE: Perhaps the third time will likely be the allure because you might be now both single. While you will have to wait for this man to end grieving for the spouse to whom he was untrue, it could be time for an trustworthy dialog about your emotions for him and whether or not he’s on the same web page. It is important you both determine whether or not this is the real factor or just another attempt to resurrect a teenage romance.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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