My grandson wants to call me Mimi — but the…
DEAR ABBY: My grandson is 2 and has began to call me “Mimi.” The drawback is that his other grandmother selected Mimi for herself. My daughter-in-law is irritated and doesn’t need him calling me Mimi. She also doesn’t need me to be called Mom-Mom because he calls her Ma-Ma. Am I mistaken to be upset? I’ve been an lively caregiver in this youngster’s life since his beginning. His other Mimi doesn’t live close by and makes no effort to be in her grandchild’s life — not even by cellphone. She just makes use of the time period Mimi to sound good to her Facebook pals.
I do know this is foolish, but is it mistaken for me to be upset? He wants one thing simple to call me when we go to playgrounds and can’t discover me. I really feel that he can have two Mimis. I grew up with two mothers. — NICKNAME IN THE EAST
DEAR NICKNAME: More than one Mimi might be complicated. The most important factor is your relationship with your grandchild, not who has dibs on a sure title. I recommend you let the other grandmother declare “Mimi” while you collaborate with the little boy on a new nickname for you. If he takes half in the resolution, will probably be simpler for him to bear in mind and a lot more particular.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married for 12 years and have two stepchildren. My 37-year-old stepson is the difficult one. He’s the greatest cheapskate I’ve come across in my total life. Although he earns a good dwelling in his career, he not often picks up the tab when we exit to dinner or drinks, and he nearly never picks up his own tab, either. He appears to count on that we, as dad and mom, are obligated to take care of his bills.
My spouse has just lately begun choosing up his portion, but I discover it infuriating that he makes no gesture at all to pay his own means. Should I just let it go and continue letting his mom choose up his portion (from her separate account), while I continue to stress about it? — CHEAPSKATE’S STEPDAD IN NEW MEXICO
DEAR STEPDAD: Has your spouse requested you not to discuss with her son about this? If she hasn’t, have you ever told him he’s too previous for Mom to continuously pay his tab, significantly in gentle of the fact that he’s a absolutely employed grownup? (One would assume he ought to have volunteered, if only often.) I’ll assume you might have told your spouse how you are feeling about this, that when she picks up her son’s portion it makes you lose your urge for food. Start there, but if she continues, bear in mind that that money is hers, and how she chooses to spend it’s her business.
DEAR ABBY: The supervisor of the eating room in my senior dwelling middle has a behavior of shaking arms with residents at their tables. To keep away from his hand, I often say my hand is moist or greasy. How can I best decline his unsanitary effort? — HEALTHY HANDS IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR HEALTHY: The supervisor wants to seem pleasant and welcoming. Because you favor not to shake arms while eating, merely inform him as a lot. If you say it with a well mannered smile and a good-natured tone, it shouldn’t trigger embarrassment.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren. For practically 4 many years, Jeanne Phillips penned this column, which was based in 1956 by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 270135, Kansas City, MO 64127.
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