My soulmate is broke — so I dont know if we…
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been divorced for 13 years and have been courting “Paul” for the final 5 years. Paul is type, helps with issues round the home and loves my family and friends. We share many common pursuits and luxuriate in being collectively. We at the moment are contemplating transferring to the following step: marriage. We already dwell collectively.
The drawback is that Paul is not financially accountable. He helps pay the payments, and we alternate choosing up the tab when we exit. I earn more than he does, which is no massive deal, however I should not have retirement set up or great insurance coverage. If we have been married, it might help my insurance coverage issues. The home and property are in my identify.
Part of the rationale for my divorce was my ex’s incapability to handle money, which obtained us into a world of debt. I don’t wish to undergo that again. I’d like to marry Paul however don’t wish to tackle his financial debt. What’s the fitting determination to make? — STUCK ON THIS IN WISCONSIN
DEAR STUCK: The proper factor so that you can do could be to debate this with an legal professional who can help you determine if you actually wish to be legally married to Paul. Marrying somebody to get on his insurance coverage is not the fitting strategy to go. Talking with an insurance coverage agent about a program for which you may be eligible could be not solely enlightening, but in addition advantageous.
DEAR ABBY: My good friend “Buddy’s” daughter is at an age between my two daughters’ ages. She is 11; mine are 10 and 13. I’ve identified Buddy since junior high, and our wives get alongside nicely. We dwell close to one another, and that’s great, however their daughter “Edie” is a nightmare to have stick with us. She’s imply, conceited, disobedient and extremely impolite.
My spouse and I love spending time with Buddy and his spouse. Their youthful daughter is 3 and lovely but in addition very spoiled. We don’t wish to jeopardize our friendship, nevertheless it’s beginning to put on on us to have Edie right here with out going off on them about her habits. How can we deliver this to their consideration with out it seeming like we’re critiquing their parenting and upsetting them? — FED UP IN ILLINOIS
DEAR FED UP: Is Edie imply, conceited, disobedient and impolite within the presence of her mother and father, or has she been invited to spend time together with your women individually? If it is the latter and also you don’t need Edie to negatively affect your women by modeling dangerous habits, clarify to her that you’ve “certain rules” at your home and what they’re. Make sure she is aware of that if she will be able to’t observe the foundations she gained’t be invited again.
If Edie behaves this badly in her mother and father’ presence, inform Buddy and his spouse privately that though you worth their friendship, you no longer need their daughter over there since you don’t need her habits to affect your own children.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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