my adult son refuses to share his location with me…
DEAR ABBY: I’m frightened about my 21-year-old son, “Travis.” He hasn’t fairly left our home that he shares with me and my husband, but he sleeps right here only one or two nights. He’s in faculty half time and works half time, which suggests working or learning long hours until morning.
What issues me is where he’s staying. He refuses to reveal his location. He says he’s with a girlfriend we haven’t met, and he stays out all night time long. I’m frightened there is likely to be a drug downside, too. I strive to call him to see if he’s OK, and I’ve to textual content and textual content just to get an reply.
My husband doesn’t fear at all. He tells me to go away Travis alone, that he’s 21 and I’m loopy for worrying about what our son is doing. Am I unsuitable about this? How can I discover out what Travis is doing and strive to get him help? — WORRIED MAMA IN GEORGIA
DEAR MAMA: Your son is no longer a baby. He seems to be handling his job and research responsibly. At 21, he deserves to have a non-public life, and you ought to be ready to step back and permit him that. Listen to your husband in this regard. He is steering you in the proper direction.
DEAR ABBY: There was a man I knew when I used to be youthful. He was a good friend of a good friend of mine. I discovered years later that he had had a crush on me. Long story short, we went on a date. Apparently, it went higher for him than for me. After ONE DATE, I’m “Baby,” and he thinks we’re a couple! After I moved from California to Alabama, it didn’t deter him from appearing like we have been a couple.
I texted him, saying I didn’t need to harm him, but I couldn’t do a long-distance relationship. He despatched back a seething textual content about “not ever contacting him again.” Did I do the unsuitable factor? Should I’ve known as him? (I used to be scared to do this.) — CONFUSED IN THE SOUTH
DEAR CONFUSED: The approach you dealt with it was acceptable. You have been right to keep away from an disagreeable dialog, notably because you sensed (rightly) that he wouldn’t take your message properly.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married for 13 years to a great man. A pair of years into our marriage, I used to be recognized with uterine cancer and had to get a hysterectomy. My sister, who is three years older, doesn’t perceive what I went through. I needed youngsters, but now, because of the hysterectomy, I can’t have any. How can I make her (and others) perceive that I’m grieving? —
DEAR NO ONE’S MOM: I’m sorry for your loss, which for many childless ladies is a painful one. However, not everyone seems to be empathetic enough to perceive that this ache is ongoing. To those who, like your sister, don’t perceive, converse up. However, if this is having a unfavorable affect on your life and relationships, please take into account speaking about it with a licensed psychotherapist.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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