Dear Abby: My friend makes disrespectful comments…
DEAR ABBY: I’m a very overweight girl, but down 50 kilos from my top weight and persevering with at a constant, but slow, fee to lose. My A1C is now down to pre-diabetic, so I do know my efforts are making a distinction. I lately had a horrible bout of sciatica and pain in an arthritic knee, which stored me from some anticipated journey.
A superb (so I believed) friend who was affected by my cancellation prompt that maybe my weight was inflicting the sciatica and arthritis, and if I misplaced more weight, issues would go better. (DUH!!) Lots of skinny people endure from sciatica and arthritis, and it felt to me that her remark was condescending, hurtful, and disrespectful. I don’t know what I really feel, other than like throwing a canned ham at her. She has completed this before.
When another expensive friend died, and I expressed my grief and teared up, this same “friend” prompt I’d do better if I acquired out more and socialized. This was during COVID.
Is there something I can say to her? Should I ignore her comments and press on with the “friendship,” or is it time to transfer on? I’d like to inform her off, but I see no worth in countering her more refined kind with overt aggression. Is there a single, good, lethal one-liner I might have used? — SLOW LOSER IN NEW YORK
DEAR SLOW LOSER: As I see it, you may have two methods to play this hand. The next time this girl says one thing grossly insensitive, inform her it’s her third strike and repeat what you may have written to me about what comes out of her mouth. Or merely do your self a favor and from now on ice her out. (She could have been making an attempt to help you — in some bizarre method — or she’s clueless.)
DEAR ABBY: My daughter and son-in-law have determined to transfer his mother from California to our home state of Tennessee. The youngsters have a beautiful home about an hour from my husband and me. Both are professionals. They have been married for 10 years and have no youngsters.
The mother, “Anita,” has an single daughter with two youngsters dwelling with her now and utilizing her money. Anita desires to escape and be left alone. I’m afraid this might spell catastrophe for my daughter’s marriage. Their plan is to rework their attic so they’ve the upstairs and Anita has the downstairs.
Should I specific my issues to my daughter or both of them, or keep my mouth shut? We have a great relationship, and I never insert my opinion into their business. — PROTECTOR IN THE SOUTH
DEAR PROTECTOR: If this is still in the planning stage and the project has not yet begun, point out your issues to your daughter and son-in-law together. One drawback that happens to me may be if your son-in-law’s sister plans to convey the children and live with her mom in the future. However, once you may have introduced this up, don’t insert your self any additional.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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