My employee wants to take bereavement leave for…
DEAR ABBY: I supervise a group of six mid-level professionals. Usually, we handle tremendous, but a current battle could push me over the sting. “Lauren” lives alone with canine that appear to be her only household. One of them (age 11) had been sick. She saved asking for sick leave to take him to the vet. I told her she had to use trip time for that.
Well, the canine died, and now Lauren wants to take bereavement leave. When I refused, she had a match and began yelling about unequal treatment because another co-worker, “Jenny,” was allowed to take bereavement leave earlier this yr.
Jenny’s toddler son died in a drowning accident. It was a horrific tragedy. Jenny was traumatized and incapacitated for weeks. The conditions usually are not comparable. But Jenny heard Lauren yelling and evaluating Jenny’s baby to her aged basset hound. This is inflicting all kinds of interpersonal issues that HR has flatly refused to become involved with.
I perceive that Lauren cherished her canine, but I also suppose she wants to get a grip, apologize to Jenny and take a trip if she wants to. Is it unreasonable to count on an grownup to know the distinction between a human and a canine and act accordingly? — STRESSED SUPERVISOR IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR SUPERVISOR: I feel you already know the reply to your slightly snarky query. HR at your firm could also be reluctant to deal with this sizzling potato because they don’t have a coverage in place that covers pet sickness or bereavement for the loss of one. Please counsel it to your employer.
DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I are seniors and live in a one-floor condominium. I’m in good health, but she has a number of medical points, including impaired stability and mobility. She refuses the advisable bodily therapy and not often makes use of the walker I purchased for her. She hates cooking now and wants me to drive nearly daily for takeout, which is pricey and time-consuming. Now, she’s speaking about promoting our condominium to transfer into a seniors’ complicated with unbiased, assisted and persevering with care phases. All meals are ready there.
I don’t need this transfer and have told her so. When I do, she goes silent for days, telling me it’s time for the change. I disagree. We are at an deadlock. I’m so upset about this I’m contemplating divorce after 55 years. What do you advocate we do? — STILL YOUNG IN NORTH CAROLINA
This reader wants to know what he ought to do about his sick spouse. Viacheslav Yakobchuk – stock.adobe.com
DEAR STILL YOUNG: I like to recommend you talk about this with your CPA and your attorney before making any selections. If you could possibly afford it, an assisted residing facility for her while you stay in the apartment could be perfect. However, if that’s not potential, would you be prepared to ship her to the power while you rent a one-bedroom condo for your self?
One factor I’m fairly sure of: Your spouse is signaling that she’s shutting down. Her world is now smaller than it was. You haven’t aged at the same price, and it might be time to do for her what you want to her to do for you if the scenario had been reversed.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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