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DEAR ABBY: My neighbor is 80. She’s my political reverse. She’s identified me since I used to be 13. Her husband died 10 or so years in the past. All she does all day is keep inside her home (even when it’s sunny) and watch TV news. I strive to be good to her because she’s alone and in all probability depressed, but sometimes I would like to curse her to high heaven.
I borrowed $40 from her and told her I’d give it back the next day. Well, I didn’t receives a commission until two days later. I noticed her in the driveway the next day, and she angrily requested, “Where’s my money?” I told her the story and bought it back to her promptly.
We need to verify on elderly people, but sometimes they’re nasty and cranky, and I just need to go away her alone. My mother died at 89, and she was NEVER like that. What offers with some of these older people? — NEIGHBOR IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR NEIGHBOR: I’ll provide you with a clue about “what gives” with your neighbor. You requested to borrow $40 from a retired senior, promising to return the money in 24 hours. When the money wasn’t forthcoming, she turned irritated and involved. Stop blaming all seniors for the way in which one of them reacted when you didn’t keep your phrase, and you’ll have fewer issues with them.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a middle-aged grownup with a dilemma about a pal who lacks social awareness. I had told her in the past that I had a drawback with a mutual pal, “Michelle,” whom I discovered poisonous and disrespectful of my household. She responded that it was my issue, not Michelle’s, so I distanced myself from both of them for a few months.
Later, she out of the blue texted me for a lunch she needed to have with the three of us. At the time, I used to be burying my mother-in-law and didn’t reply immediately. The next day, she insisted on an reply as the lunch was in a few days. I responded that I used to be “unavailable for the foreseeable future,” and for them to take pleasure in.
How do I sever this relationship with these clueless ladies of luxurious? If I keep saying I’m unavailable, they’ll ask when I will probably be out there. To make issues worse, they like to get together for conventional vacation luncheons and dinners with their spouses. I really feel drained of vitality after I’ve been in their company. Please help. — PULLING AWAY IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR PULLING AWAY: You have two decisions relating to how to deal with this. The first is to continue being “busy,” and when requested when you’ll be out there, inform them you don’t know. The other could be to chunk the bullet and inform them that you no longer take pleasure in those get-togethers and don’t need to take part in them anymore.
DEAR READERS: Time actually flies! Daylight saving ends at 2 a.m. Sunday for most people. If you might be one of them, don’t neglect to flip your clocks back one hour tonight at bedtime. And while you’re at it, be sure to put contemporary batteries in your carbon monoxide and smoke detectors. — LOVE, ABBY
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also identified as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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