My disturbed nieces wild letter is destroying our…
DEAR ABBY: My niece-in-law, “Justine,” is a few years youthful than my husband and I. We have been best pals for the last 25 years. She’s 55 and divorced, with a grown daughter but no man in her life. She’s extraordinarily lonely and has only us as emotional assist.
During the last 12 months, she has had to transfer her 78-year-old mom (with whom she has a tumultuous relationship) in with her. Justine’s daughter has distanced herself from her mom because Justine has erratic moods. Recently, she despatched me a four-page letter saying how offended she was with me and my household about issues that never occurred. She invented transgressions, insulted my grown kids and focused my daughter-in-law. My son is livid.
My husband, who loves Justine and looks like an older brother, says he needs to restore our household. I really like my husband, but my first allegiance is to my children, and I’m shocked and damage that he isn’t livid with her for attacking me with untruths. He says we now have to discover a manner to get past this. (She didn’t embody him in her letter.) I’m making an attempt to be ready for upcoming household gatherings. What may be achieved to restore this? — LOOKING FOR A WAY IN THE SOUTH
DEAR LOOKING: If Justine is inventing issues that never occurred in order to justify her anger, the possibilities are great that she is mentally in poor health. Until she is prepared to acknowledge that she is driving away the people who care for her the most, issues could worsen. Suggest to your husband that if he can persuade Justine to get the help she wants, you are ready to forgive her for the damage she is inflicting. Then all of you need to cross your fingers and hope that she sees the knowledge.
DEAR ABBY: My older sister thinks she’s better than me. She makes little snide feedback and thinks it’s OK. It has led to a couple of big arguments in the past seven years. The last argument was over some money I used to be lacking. She’s been stealing from anyone and all people — from hospitals, docs’ workplaces, relations and her boyfriend’s household. When I spotted that she had stolen money from me as properly, it was the last straw. I confronted her, and her response was I’m now “dead to her.” We haven’t spoken in a number of months.
Her boyfriend died last week, and she hasn’t told me. (I came upon on social media.) Should I attain out to her about funeral preparations or contact his household instead? His household never actually talked to any of us. They didn’t like her because they thought she was only there for his money. — OUT OF THE LOOP IN ARIZONA
DEAR OUT: Unless you’re feeling the need to attempt to make up with your troubled sister, don’t attain out. However, if you need to do one thing for the boyfriend’s household, ship them a good condolence card expressing your sympathy.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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