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DEAR ABBY: I’m freshman in high faculty, and I live with my stepmother and father. They are great parents to me and my little brother but very homophobic. I really like going to church with them, but I’ve a companion of the same gender. My parents just lately came upon and have determined as punishment to isolate me from everybody, including placing me in homeschool.
What they don’t perceive is that I’m confused about myself, and I can’t make sense of my feelings. Can I be both Christian and lesbian? Every time I strive to ask one of them for help understanding, they shut down and call me disgusting. What can I do to get them to perceive that I need to speak through this? — WHO AM I IN KENTUCKY
DEAR ‘WHO’: Of course a individual might be both LGBTQ and Christian, although you is probably not welcomed at the denomination to which your parents belong. The Episcopalians, the Presbyterians, the United Methodist Church, the United Church of Christ and the Metropolitan Community Church (an LGBTQ denomination) are among the inclusive. Your parents could also be frightened because they assume you will have “chosen” to be the best way you might be.
You could discover online sources will make you are feeling better as you search to perceive more about your self. One of them is The Trevor Project (thetrevorproject.org), which is the main disaster intervention nonprofit group for LGBTQ younger people. It gives data and help 24/7, all yr spherical.
Another trusted useful resource I’ve beneficial for many years, not just for you but also for your parents if they want to be taught more about this subject, is called PFLAG. It was began in 1973 by a mom and her homosexual son and has grown to turn out to be the main useful resource for academic supplies on this subject. Its web tackle is pflag.org.
DEAR ABBY: Twenty years in the past, my daughter “Tina” was in an abusive marriage that ended with the overdose death of her husband. My spouse, her mom, died just lately. As I used to be going through some previous papers and recordsdata, I got here across a plain white envelope. Inside had been a couple of handwritten letters from Tina’s husband, seemingly written to her just prior to his death. I’m uncertain what I ought to do with them.
My fear is that if I give them to Tina, it would trigger her to relive that horrible time. On the other hand, I really feel the choice of what to do with the letters must be hers. She not only survived, but she has thrived and made a great life for herself. — PROUD DAD IN FLORIDA
DEAR DAD: You state that you discovered the letters in some “old papers” belonging to your spouse. How unusual that they weren’t despatched to your daughter. If they had been supposed to be handed on to your daughter, why didn’t she obtain them? If she did obtain them and gave them to her mom, then she already is aware of what’s in them. I believe you must inform Tina what you got here across, ask if she is aware of about them and, if she doesn’t know, offer them to her.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also recognized as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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